I’m a 25 year old guy, in my dream I was with my female friend Pearl, who I currently have a crush on and who is the same as me. In the dream, Pearl and I were in a room with matted floors and walls, with both of us were wearing workout clothes. I was wearing shorts and a dri-fit t-shirt, Pearl was wearing capri lengthed yoga pants and a tank top that showed off her arms. We were also both barefoot. Throughout the dream, the two of us engaged in a lighthearted but physical intense grappling match in which Pearl consistently got the better of me. She moved with the grace of a dancer to outmaneuver me and get in position to execute highly effective and powerful judo throws and wrestling takedowns including a tomoe nogae throw and a few full slams. Once she got me to the ground, she used superior flexibility and surprising strength to manipulate my limbs into painful holds and chokes which forced me to continually tap out. I noticed myself throughout being mesmerized by her smile and soft voice every time she made a joke at my expanse either while controlling me in a hold or after forcing me to tap out. I also noticed how soft her feet felt when she put them in my stomach to execute the tomoe nogae throw. I noticed how smooth her legs felt as they wrapped around my ribs when she put me in a body triangle or around my neck in a triangle choke. As the dream went on, the holds seemingly got more painful but I was less embarrassed to be in them. These included, numerous armbars with Pearl contorting my arms in all different ways while applying pressure with her legs and using her feet to push my face into the mat. She also applied a crucifix, completely immobilizing me and asking me “how it felt to be at her mercy” in the sweetest way possible. She loved the rear naked choke and at one point while having it locked in released some pressure to whisper in my ear “I love having you in my arms” before immediately returning to nearly choking me out. She also liked some more advanced holds like the omoplata to show off her flexibility. Additionally at one point, when I was a little tired, she just kept hip tossing me like I weighed nothing and repeating this until I asked her to stop. She really liked holds where she could look at me and the dream ended with her on top of me in a mounted triangle, her legs wrapped around my neck using her thighs to turn me red as she manipulated my arm she had control of. She asked me if I was gonna tap out, but I replied I could stay there all day, to which she responded I’m glad you feel safe, but your going to sleep then and proceeded to finish choking me unconscious. When I woke up in the dream, she was standing next to me and I rolled to start to get up only for her to stop me with her foot, place on my chest and press my back back onto the mat. She then stood over me and gloated while flexing before in slow motion mounting me and pinning my arms to the mat. When I asked what she was doing now, she simply replied “this” before going in to kiss me at which point I woke up.
Your dream reflects a complex blend of emotions and desires, particularly surrounding your crush on Pearl, as well as themes of power dynamics, vulnerability, and intimacy.
Admiration and Attraction: The physicality of the grappling matches suggests a strong attraction to Pearl not just on a romantic level, but also an appreciation for her strength, grace, and confidence. You admire her capabilities, particularly in physical activities, which may symbolize a deeper attraction to her character.
Power and Control: The dream contains elements of submission and control, where Pearl consistently outmatches you physically. This could represent a desire to be vulnerable and to relinquish control in a safe context. The fact that you are subsequently unbothered by the increasing intensity of the holds suggests a comfort in being exposed and a longing for deeper intimacy.
Playfulness and Flirtation: The playful nature of the wrestling, combined with her teasing remarks, hints at a lighthearted flirtation that may exist between you two. The joking at your expense shows her comfort and familiarity with you, which might indicate your own feelings that such a dynamic could lead to a romantic relationship.
Intimacy and Connection: The physical closeness inherent in the grappling and her whispered words create a sense of intimacy. The dream seems to explore the boundaries between fight and play, which parallels the thin line between friendship and romantic interest. The gradual shift from competitive to intimate captures a desire for a deeper emotional connection.
Safe Space: The environment of the matted room suggests safety, a controlled setting where both your competitive and affectionate elements can coexist. Your subconscious may be communicating that you feel a sense of security and safety in her company, leading to the comfort you felt during the more painful aspects of the dream.
Desire for Overwhelm: When she says, “I love having you in my arms,” it may indicate a longing for nurturing and protection, suggesting that even in a position of submission, there is a yearning for care and affection.
Overall, your dream encapsulates the interplay between admiration, vulnerability, connection, and desire, particularly within the context of your feelings for Pearl. It might signify not only a yearning to express your attraction but also a hope for developing a more intimate bond with her in waking life. The dream's conclusion, with her teasingly pinning you down and kissing you, highlights the potential for a romantic escalation from your current friendship.